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Watching the world and frightening yourself

One by-product of being someone who daily trawls the UK newspaper websites over the years is that one notices the frequency with which reports of latest scientific and medical research findings, particularly relating to health and ageing, appear to contradict each other. Thus one day we learn that [...]

March 1, 2019 // 0 Comments

A cross to bear

Family obligations such as visiting an ageing relative can sometimes be strange and double-edged experiences. Ordinarily, being all part of life’s rich tapestry, they are undertaken freely and willingly out of both filial duty and the commendable urge to spend time with the individual concerned [...]

February 25, 2019 // 0 Comments

A dinner in absentia

Last night our dining club was due to meet in the absence of A who passed away on Saturday. He was going to provide drinks and canapés at his home and afterwards the remaining three would eat locally. We decided to preserve the booking and meet up and the universal reaction was we were pleased we [...]

January 29, 2019 // 0 Comments

On the taking of advice

Earlier this week my daughter Grace came to stay for a couple of nights because she is currently attending three day’s worth of lectures etc. in central London for would-be solicitors – this in slightly strange circumstances for two quite different reasons. Firstly, she originally took the [...]

January 23, 2019 // 0 Comments

Some days are better than others

These past few days I have been spending time with my ageing father and his resident carer at his home on the south coast. He has reached a stage in life where his appreciation of what is going on is necessarily restricted by his physical and mental frailties notwithstanding the fact that those [...]

January 19, 2019 // 0 Comments

Make of it (anything) what you will

Last week I found myself in conversation with my father’s current carer, who formerly held a senior position in a church school in his native South Africa. Somehow our discussion moved onto the subject of the wide variety of different ways in which elderly people cope with the vicissitudes of [...]

January 11, 2019 // 0 Comments

Family times

They say that simple things please simple minds. Over time the Byfords, who love playing parlour games such as Name In The Hat, a variation of it – sometimes known as Who Am I? – in which everyone is issued with a ‘sticky’ on their forehead on which is written the name of a [...]

January 3, 2019 // 0 Comments

An ongoing exchange

I am sometimes harbour misgivings about ‘reporting from the frontline’ upon my experiences of dealing with my aged father who needs live-in care assistance – but not necessarily for the reasons you might think. I was chatting to a Rust colleague the other day about the motivations that [...]

December 26, 2018 // 0 Comments

A Christmas fuss about nothing?

With apologies to all Rusters who have already seen it and already formed a view, today I wished to comment upon this year’s BBC One short promotional film for Christmas which – as anyone who reads the newspapers and/or follows social media will know – has become a source of some [...]

December 9, 2018 // 0 Comments

More banking woes

The subject of poor banking service is one visited by our correspondents and yesterday I fell victim to it. In using an ATM first thing yesterday the machine retained my card for no reason nor explanation. This means that for the second time in a few months I have to undertake the rigmarole of [...]

December 4, 2018 // 0 Comments

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