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Grooming and relationships

On this organ we sometimes poke fun at the ways of the media – you know the sort of thing, ‘silly summer stories’, spectacular ‘fails’ going viral, and of course the time-honoured staple of madcap scientific surveys with blanket generalisations for conclusions that are either counter-intuitive and/or seek to ‘prove’ that things previously generally accepted as gospel are now in fact not only wrong but quite possibly the opposite of the actualité – and today I’m highlighting some examples that may be of interest to our female readers.


First up, ladies, is the way that we’ve been applying deodorant all these years. You’d think that this would be a relatively straightforward topic, learned at our mother’s knee from an early age as she went about her daily bathing, toilet and make-up routine of a morning, and then passed down from generation to generation.

However, apparently this is not so.

As you might expect, men also have their weird ways with such things. Despite my regular assertions throughout our marriage that this practice is madness, when brushing his teeth my own Dearly Beloved has always begun by making a song and dance about beginning his routine by sluicing his mouth out with classic Listerine mouthwash before applying toothpaste to his toothbrush and getting down to business. Whenever I challenge him about it, his response is that he’s always done it this way and it makes sense to him.

(Mind you, having watched the Monday Night Football match live on Sky Sports, so does immediately repeating the process by then watching his ‘recording’ of the same match – again – straight afterwards, so I don’t know why his tooth-brushing regime surprises me at all!).

Back to topic, however:

Here’s a link to a report by Olivia Petter on a new ‘survey’ conducted on behalf of Perspirex for Cosmopolitan magazine by TV doctor Dawn Harper, as appears today upon the website of – THE INDEPENDENT



“Ta-raa! Happy first anniversary, my little passion-flower” (MAC cartoon)

My hunch is that few readers will have missed the widespread media reports on a new survey carried out by Southampton University researchers, recently published in the British Medical Journal Open, which ‘discovered’ that women lose interest in sex with their partner approximately 12 months after beginning a new relationship.

Sounds a bit loopy, doesn’t it?  However, that hasn’t stopped them setting out their ‘facts’.

The study was apparently conducted by collecting data from some 4,839 men and 6,669 women aged between 16 and 74 and demonstrated that over time both sexes both tire of sex with age (is the Pope Catholic?), but females do so far quicker than men. Never mind piercings, arrogance or swearing, for many women such factors as having had a baby in the past year and/or kids under the age of five are significant turn-offs.

Both genders cited issues such as poor health, communication problems and lack of emotional closeness as contributing to a diminution in their interest in sex.

For women, the lack of interest in sex was most common between the ages of 55 and 64, whereas for men it was younger, i.e. between 35 and 44. Overall, 34% of women admitted to having a low sex drive, compared to 15% of men – though 40% of older women were also reported to be unhappy with their sex lives.

I’m not sure whether to laugh or cry on this one.



Here’s a link to an article by John Withington that appears today upon the website of the – DAILY MAIL

I don’t think I can add anything to the contents …


About Jane Shillingford

Jane spent the bulk of her career working on women’s magazines. Now retired and living on the south coast, she has no regrets and 'would do it all again'. More Posts